Summer is nearing its' end.
Another season is just around the corner.
I will miss the tall grass
and the sight of my boys enjoying its' cool loveliness.
It's been a difficult summer for us and we ourselves are starting a new season in our lives.
This summer we got our diagnosis of autism (high functioning) for our Christopher.
I share this with you not for attention or sympathy, but because I truly feel like I have received such an abundance of help and support that I need to somehow pass it on. I have had wonderful words of support and comfort from friends and family. I have found help in other mother's blogs, emails, and phone conversations about how they too have suffered the heartache of realizing their child isn't quite "normal". They have helped me realize that it is okay to grieve for that "vision" of a perfect child and learn that that child still exists.
Christopher is still that funny, charming, intelligent, sweet boy that I have always known - he will just have some extra challenges to deal with. I have grown a huge admiration for him and his ability to rise above his "limitations." I write this to all you mothers who have felt heartache for your child or who have dealt with the criticism of those who do not understand. I have been so blessed to have so many individuals miraculously come into my life and make my burden lighter. Thank you.
I promise my next posts will be much more uplifting.
My life is truly truly blessed.
I will miss the tall grass
and the sight of my boys enjoying its' cool loveliness.
It's been a difficult summer for us and we ourselves are starting a new season in our lives.
This summer we got our diagnosis of autism (high functioning) for our Christopher.
I share this with you not for attention or sympathy, but because I truly feel like I have received such an abundance of help and support that I need to somehow pass it on. I have had wonderful words of support and comfort from friends and family. I have found help in other mother's blogs, emails, and phone conversations about how they too have suffered the heartache of realizing their child isn't quite "normal". They have helped me realize that it is okay to grieve for that "vision" of a perfect child and learn that that child still exists.
Christopher is still that funny, charming, intelligent, sweet boy that I have always known - he will just have some extra challenges to deal with. I have grown a huge admiration for him and his ability to rise above his "limitations." I write this to all you mothers who have felt heartache for your child or who have dealt with the criticism of those who do not understand. I have been so blessed to have so many individuals miraculously come into my life and make my burden lighter. Thank you.
I promise my next posts will be much more uplifting.
My life is truly truly blessed.
7 comments:
What a sweet post! Oh how we love your wonderful Christopher! I am finding out quickly how important it is to let go of 'normal' and just create your 'new normal'! Can't wait to get together!
I read your posts and always think to myself..."What a great mom she is, wish she could pass a few of her talents to me". This post confirms that. Christpher is truely such an adorable little boy. Hang in there you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Funny, the way you ended this post. I DID find this one to be uplifting. You are awesome.
I love the first comment on here..."your new normal." That sure gives you a lot of freedom to live life your own way, and I definitely know Christopher helps you guys do that :)! What a great kid he is, and what great parents he has. We are blessed to know you and pray that you will find success in the new challenges that have come your way. We love you!
You are am amazing person and mother! Christopher is so lucky that he has you as a mom. Shai is developmentally delayed (we are doing further testing the end of Sept) and the best thing I can say is never let anyone get you hung up the "diagnosis" and never let Chris be "labeled." Kids are truly amazing and sometimes adults forget that & only focus on the label. It doesn't make them less smart or less cute :) All the tests have only taught us how to help her learn better and that is our focus! I know you are going to handle all the "newness" in fantastic fashion!
Thanks Brittni! I totally agree with you about labeling. It's sad that we have to apply the label at all to get the help that we need. You guys are definitely in our thoughts and prayers for your sweet Shai.
Sharing is good. That is why we live in families and communities. In retrospect I realize that mothering is sometimes not what we think it is --- just like life. At the beginning I thought I knew my children and I focused on what I thought I wanted for them. I have found that it has been more about discovering who they are and standing back and watching who they become. Christopher is a wonder!! And that means wonderful!! I have felt that from the beginning. And by the way ... I just want to ask the universe ... What the heck is NORMAL??!! We just are what we are! Never been happier to have you as my DIL and never been more grateful for the two precious grandsons you have given us. Extra xoxoxo to you and them.
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